Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Blog Tour: The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy- Giveaway, Excerpt, & Review!

Hello darlings.How is your week going? Today I'm happy to announce that I'm a stop on the Blog Tour for Violet Blue's new guide book The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy: How to Have Incredible Sex with Role Play, Sex Games, Erotic Massage, BDSM and More. Stay tuned on this post to read a juicy excerpt, my review, and enter for a chance to win a copy for yourself. Don't you want to spice up your boudoir? Now's your chance ;)


Erotic Acting

Motivation is why you’re there—as yourself and as the character you’re playing. Your goal is always to turn on your lover and yourself, and for both of you to have a great time getting off in a new, exciting, and sexually significant way. But the role or character you are personifying also has his or her own motivation. Your character’s goal may be to humiliate, punish, or control your partner’s character. Your interaction with your partner will be primarily sexual, but different from the role or persona you’re used to playing with this person (though not too different than you’d like it to be).

Say, for instance, you’ve been asked to play a sexy teacher who spanks the mischievous schoolboy, and you don’t normally spank your boyfriend in your sexual routines. You’ll probably find that once you put on your teacher’s outfit part of you gets an erotic charge out of erotically dominating your boyfriend—or you wouldn’t have agreed to try the scenario. If you’re still feeling uncertain but are willing to play along with the sexual fun and games, you can tap into your eagerness to serve up your lover’s number one sexual fantasy on a silver platter—and give him what he deserves, because you know how much it means to him, and how much it turns him on.

There’s nothing wrong with allowing yourself to really get into “punishing” your partner, especially if you find it makes your shared sex life exciting. Don’t worry about feeling silly—if you do, laugh it up and then get down to business. you can have fun, feel goofy, and get off all at once. If you’re worried about your performance, or anything else, remember that the role-play scenario is just a momentary, fun thing that you’re trying: A little experimentation is just that; it’s not a commitment. Before you begin, do whatever you need to get into role—read erotica, watch porn, play music, dress in costume. It’s extremely helpful to be aroused when you “make your entrance” into the scene.

From the Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy, 2nd Ed., by Violet Blue

My Review

Title: The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy: How to Have Incredible Sex with Role Play, Sex Games, Erotic Massage, BDSM and More
Editor: Violet Blue
Format: Paperback, 288 pages
Pub. Date: June 17th 2014
Source: Cleis Press
Purchase: Amazon


The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy is the kind of book that I think should be required reading for adults. Whether the reader is male, female, straight, gay, single taken, or any label in between, this book has something to learn and adapt to fit any lifestyle and any kink. Speaking of kink- whether you'd call your sex life vanilla or if you already have some kinky tricks up your sleeve, Violet Blue has tips and advice on how to make your fantastical sex the absolute best that it can be.

Personally, I am a huge fan of role play. Character possibilities are endless and your imagination can go wild. Violet Blue dedicates a whole chapter (and then some) to this topic. She goes above and beyond just naming classic roles/characters- although this book includes that too- by offering acting advice, steps on how to properly plan out these roles and the night of sex that follows it, and even includes resources in the back on where to shop to buy the costumes and items necessary to lose yourself into the role. I was beyond impressed with the amount of advice packed into that chapter.

And honestly, I was beyond impressed overall at how much knowledge, advice, and spicy tricks of the trade Violet Blue manages to fit into this book, period. She writes each chapter with clear expertise on the subject, as well as with a hint of snark and humor. I really like this style of writing, because instead of feeling like I needed to read a book to improve my sex life, I feel like I'm turning to an old girl friend and getting some saucy advice over mimosas. It's a friendly, unassuming, and easy-to-read prose that all ages and walks of life can appreciate and understand.

I was very pleasantly surprised to see that there is space in this book dedicated to solo play. I think it's a great inclusion, because you should know your body better than anyone else. And I know that there are some people out there who simply want to be alone in their fantasies. I think it is great that this book doesn't shun or exclude them, but rather loops them into the conversation by offering advice and techniques for men and women alike.

No matter what your fantasy is, there's a topic in here for you. Threesomes (or more)? Check. Stripping? Check. Games, public sex, fetishes? Check check check. New to all of it? No sweat. She starts you with the basics so that you always feel safe and comfortable. Ashamed or embarrassed about the fantasy you have? Again, Violet Blue has you covered. From safe sex practices to swinging and guidance on how to lap dance, this girl knows what you want in your bedroom and makes it damn near impossible for you not to integrate it.

With a book full of advice like this, how can your partner (or your own body) resist?

This is a book that I feel all sexually active and adventurous books should keep on a shelf close to the naughty drawer for inspiration. Thank you so much to Cleis Press for my copy in exchange for my honest review.


And now the moment you have been waiting for. Enter to win yourself a copy of The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy.
The Rules:
-This giveaway will run from June 25th to July 3rd, 2014.
-This giveaway is open to those 18+ and is USA ONLY.
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  1. This looks so good, if I don't win I'll be sure to go out and buy it, I definitely think it's something I need to have. The excerpt on role play is wonderful, and had me thinking of our fantasies -wink- Thank you for the chance to win!

  2. I just realized it's been ages since I stopped by! Life's just gotten so busy so I've stopped browsing my go to blogs haha. I'm glad I got a moment to scroll through though, because this book looks awesome. As someone who generally the more adventuresome in my relationship, I'm always on the lookout that keeps things exciting for me, but not too out of the comfort zone for him. I'm going to have to go check this out!